EFT for fear of expressing sadness with tears

This month's article discusses how so many of us fear crying when faced with sadness but ultimately by holding in the tears we hurt ourselves all the more. If you're in that camp, try the setups below to help you release the tears gently and quickly so that you can achieve your goals more easily.

While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, or change the words to fit your exact situation. If you need a reminder of the EFT tapping points please download this pdf file. It also provides a reminder of how to do EFT.

"Even though I can't connect with the tears because I don't want to look weak in front of others maybe I can give myself a little space "

"Even though I've seen how red my eyes look against my washed out face and I don't want to go there maybe I can give myself some space "

"Even though I know I will feel rotten if I cry but what if it's a way to moving forward through this road block that's been holding me back? "

I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. You may repeat this round more than once if you wish.

***These phrases focus on tapping out the problem***

1st Round

Head: "I'm going to look so miserable "

Eyebrow: "I know I'm going to feeling miserable "

Side of Eye: "So I don't want to cry "

Under Eye: "In fact I refuse to cry "

Nose: "I don't want to be labeled a baby "

Chin: "I don't want to look weak in front of others "

Collarbone: "I just want to be free of this distress "

Under Arm: "But what if the quickest way to being free of it is by letting it go? "

Ribs: "I'm still not sure I want to have these tears come out "

2nd Round

Head: "Can't I just bury them? "

Eyebrow: "Problem is that I know they'll hang around until another opportunity comes along "

Side of Eye: "I really don't enjoy this feeling of distress "

Under Eye: "What if I could give myself space to be who I really am? "

Nose: "I'm in my own private space where no one can see me unless I choose "

Chin: "What if by letting the mask for a little while I can free the real me? "

Collarbone: "Maybe by letting myself express my sorrow I'm connecting with the real me "

Under Arm: "The one that has come to express their humanity "

Ribs: "Maybe I can do that "

If any negative thoughts or feelings remain about believing in your own affirmations use your own words to neutralise them until they are gone. And after feeling more free to be yourself give yourself space to express any sorrow you feel in whatever way is comfortable for you.